“Life is an entangled clew and if you wish to untangle it, the first thing you need to do is, do not intertwine it further.”

I had realised about life’s tangled knots while I was transferring the washed clothes to the dryer section. While I was being careful of removing the entire clothes one after another untangling them just so that they don’t tear, this thought of tangled life struck my mind. Even with our earphones, when those wires are a mess and we try to separate them, we are so careful of not breaking them, why, because we have paid for it.

Similarly don’t you think that your relations are in a mess that has to be solved? Why do we neglect them so much or sometimes when we realise and wish to untangle them, but what we do is pull and stretch it so hard that it can easily break. When materialistic things are managed well why not our special ones, our most important relations are going to dogs these days and we are least bothered about it. One small argument or fight and the knots get so tangled that we find it difficult to untangle them.  Many times if one tries to untie the knots the other is ready to mess it more instead of helping him clear the mess that had caused by two of you. There’s a miracle if you try to solve the puzzle together, life seems to like to beautiful. It is not that life is easy, relations will not be easy either but how you can solve the issues is important and that both of you need to understand and be willing to work it out. The knots of differences that have been created by the two, needs to be removed instead of trying to remove the knot that you had tied it willingly promising to take care of each other through every rough patch of life.

Life is always beautiful with the person if you love, and if you lucky enough to live with the same person all your life do not let this chance go. Do not increase the knots with the differences you have but embrace every scar and heal it with your love. Knots are not so easy to release but slowly and gradually by taking your own time they can be sorted. Do not show any hurry to solve it, this can even spoil it more. There is always a way to untie the tied, if you play with it and act smart you will never reach the end spot. Do not complicate things more and more, keep it simple and polite. There has always been a solution to our problem if you stay calm and think over it. People tend to blame others for the mess but forget that you are equally involved. And sometimes there are few who think it has always been their fault and that they curse their existence itself. No one is responsible for any situation alone if it takes two of you to have babies in life, it also takes both of you to even create and solve the issues.

Apparently, one becomes so tired of trying to unfold the pages of the worse that they prefer to tear it than trying it more, this happens mainly because the other had no time to even see how it feels to do it all alone. Is it only one’s responsibility to take care of the relation that you both had decided to start? What were those vows made for and why was there so much effort made to convince parents to get you married? Relationships even if it’s the first year or the tenth or even half a century, love and understanding increases, do not burry in the soil of hatred and ego, nurture it with the utmost care, and let it grow beautifully with your age. After you untie the tangled knots make sure you fold them properly and not throw it somewhere in a corner allowing it to rust all life.

PS: Life is the most beautiful thing, a complicated one I’d ever see, have the courage to sit down cross-legged, and untie her knots.