“Do not cry because they are past! Smile, because they once were!”

Today, we all are losing someone we love, leaving us alone. What triggers is the increase of pain, sorrow, anger, and numbness in their absence. However, the fact is one who is born is bound to die, the body leaves but not the soul though it is something that a common man cannot accept. 

None of the feelings and emotions are wrong, and experiencing grief is part of every human being. To everything, there is a reason, but during that moment, all the facts and figures go in vain. Everything is planned up there by God that we aren’t aware of, and he is being blamed for our loss. Many around you may have witnessed someone crying over their loss,  but as said, you can only experience one’s pain after you have undergone the same loss. You cannot measure the pain one is going through until you feel it yourself. And grieving is not a part of weakness or imperfection; it is a necessary part of mortality.

It is not anywhere written that you can grieve only over the loss of your parents or someone in blood relation. A few relations that God makes are stronger than any other. It is a fact that you meet someone in life for a reason that you may not know. Death is so uncertain and unpredictable. One moment you are with someone, and the other moment you are not. Over the period, I have seen many people grieving the death of their loved ones. It did hurt but not much until I lost someone due to the pandemic. It wasn’t in my hands to change the destiny, but I feel I should have at least spoken once, heard once before I see the fumes. No one can change what is destined to happen, and no one can stop loving them even after they are gone up above.

We have to accept the bitter truth of life and move on. Moving ahead in life does not mean forgetting the person, but it keeps them within us and stay happy for them to live in peace where ever they go next. Of course, some suffered more than we did, so why should we weep and add more. Those we love never leave us; there are things that death cannot touch. They are always walking with us, unseen, unheard, but always near.

Fill your life with their good memories, the years you lived them and loved them. The pain of their absence is never going to fade away, but keeping them alive within us will always keep their soul in peace. It is better to find them up in the sky with a smile rather than finding them in an empty room. We must learn not to live without them but to live with the love they left behind.

PS: Death leaves an unavoidable pain no one can heal, but love leaves a memory no one can steal.