“Distance means so little when someone means so much.” – Tom McNeal

How many of us think it is true? Yes, I do not deny that the one you love does not mean to you at all but how much does he/she means to you while they are miles away is important. Do they hold the same position in your life even after years of long-distance relationships or you are only trying to push the relation just because you do not want to become the bad one by breaking up. Suffering in relation is equals to betraying the other. Have you ever thought why these distance increase between the two more than the actual distance that you are already in? Have you tried to sit and discuss them with your partner and solve them for the better of the two of you? Not only couples who are single face this but also married couples who have to live far away due to work face the same issue. Let’s understand what can be the ways to avoid issues and cultivate more of satisfaction and dedication to the relationships and fewer feelings of being trapped.

Make use of technology the most

We are lucky today that we have so many ways to get connected to each other through technology. A lot of day-to-day communication can happen with each other. Real-time sharing things instantly, photos, video calls, and text messages. Aren’t these enough to stay connected when your partner is miles away? Maybe not sometimes, as one would think that it is too much involvement of the other in personal space, too much of minute detailing happens every day which cannot be handled by one from the two and so things starts getting worst and distance start showing its actual meaning. When you do not have a chance to see each other it is the only way that helps but that does not mean you have to constantly check on the other and control his/her life. Share important things of the day. For example, if you have to attend a party or a dinner, mention whom did you go with and how was the dinner, what did you talk, what was that something you ate and really loved the taste. Do not leave the other person assuming about all these because that may lead to wrong assumptions and create misunderstanding too.

Stay committed and loyal to your partner

The above statement of sharing everything instead of leaving them to assume will help them to understand and believe that you are loyal to them and not build negative thoughts. Anything that they do not like is also to be mentioned and shared. Better to say than hide.

Remember both of you have mutually decided own paths and so are experiencing the long distance relationship. To achieve your dream or goal, you needed to sacrifice being together for a while. So make most of it and set a few parameters so that the love and harmony grows. However, it is good to end a relation with a good note rather than hurting someone with ignorance.

Do things together even if you’re away

Technology is rising day by day, you can use different online applications to watch a movie together at the same time or plan a dinner date over Skype. Netflix, Amazon Prime, makes it easy for you to watch a show with your partner.

Plan your meets

Sit together and plan what you will do the next time you see each other or plan a surprise visit for a weekend. Try to make a habit or talking every night before you sleep no matter even if that is for a few minutes if you are tired. Just to ask and share your day. Keep the excitement always high and the spark alive just to make each other feel your needed and missed.

Trust & Confidence

Trust and be confident of the person you love. Insecurities and over possessiveness have no place in a relation. This can result in clashes, lack of trust, misunderstanding and cannot be avoided without proper communication. The frequency of interaction should not exceed due to insecurities, it is all to know the other person better being away. One would be turned off immediately and will start avoiding your calls and texts. Keep it simple and sweet do not complicate the relationship by exceeding any boundaries. Trust the other person, one can be busy when you are free to talk and vice versa, any of you can have mood swings too and during that time it is important to understand the other and trust them with what they have to say instead of assuming that they are all excuses.

Love will travel as far as you let it travel. Be slow to judge the other. It is psychologically possible that when we’re separated from the other, our mind wanders to assumptions and judgments, put a break there itself and do not exaggerate to each and every situation as you are not alone who is away from the other one, he/she is equally away from you too. In some cases, few people get over critical on even a small situation and overreact as if they were told off by the other and that they are not valued or respected. Whereas that is not the case, you need to have that confidence in you and your relationship more than anything else. Rest are only irrational fantasies. Absence makes your heart go psychotic but change yourself and make the absence grow your heart fonder.

It takes just one minute to spoil everything but it is the maturity of the two if you can handle that one minute considerably. This can happen only if you keep your ego aside and do not let that overcome the love between you two. Make the other person feel special by sending sweet text messages instead of pointing out why you didn’t do that first. Any of you can take that step first there is no such gender bias to this feeling. It is simply like how the wind is to fire it extinguishes the small and inflames the great. It is now you who has to decide what’s good between ego and love, whether to stop it while it starts erupting or add wind to let it grow and destroy.

PS: It hurts not having you close, but it will hurt even more not having you at all.