People these days are afraid of letting out their feelings or discussing on something which they don’t like. Why? What is the reason behind it? They feel it is because they might end up arguing or disrespecting each other or may be things will not conclude in a nice way.
What is discussion?
I am sure many of you do not even know the exact meaning of it. Discussing on a topic means you are not sure of what you want to do and you would like to share it with someone who you think can help you come out with a decision. In that case, every discussion starts with what you feel, what is your thought process behind it and then comes an opinion from the other person, his/her views, their thought point of view on that particular thing. In the meantime if you start interrupting, this would lead to an argument. If you need help, you will have to keep patience and listen to other’s opinion and what are they trying to tell you. It is definitely going to be your decision in the end but to listen to someone calmly is important. Sometimes what they say can help you take a wise decision. Every individual born on this earth has different thinking to everything in their life. Sharing your thoughts does not mean the other should buy them and work on the same, nor does it mean that what they put forward should be taken by you always.
Avoiding an argument is always about listening to someone calmly, thinking what would you do if you were in their situation and then coming forward with your thought process making sure you don’t let them feel that this is the only decision they need to consider nor hampering them indirectly to believe it to be the only right way to go ahead. There are cases where in if one person is pushed to an extent of argument when they are just trying to discuss, they would later stop sharing what they feel. On the other hand people who do this should also think that if one discussion has left to an argument does not mean that every discussion would lead to the same and things between the two will get worse. Every situation and time is different. By staying quiet and not expressing would lead to silence and slowly kill any relation you would love to not end. When I say that the person you would like to discuss things with will also put down his opinion, he/she will always like to know what you think and how would you react to their thoughts. If they know you well, they will act accordingly and make you understand in a better way.
Do not ever try to win the discussion. If you start with a thought of winning it against the other, it will definitely lead to heated argument and you might end up insulting each other on something which was not even meant to raise your voice for. This is not something like a stage competition where you need to win or else you would lose your medal. There shouldn’t be any discussion every day. If we listen to someone carefully, put forth our point wisely and then if needed, you can express your firm decision otherwise stay calm and see how things work. Do not interrupt or try to force your decision on the other. They are mature enough to think and live the way they want to. Throwing your decision or not accepting what the other’s say has nothing to do with loosing or disrespecting yourself. This is only to share your feelings freely and feel good about being chosen by that person to share things with only you always. Keeping patience and unbiased attitude will help you not convert any discussion into an argument.
PS: – Discussion is an exchange of knowledge and Argument and exchange of ignorance.
