This is something everyone should understand and implement in life. I have started believing in it strongly because in the end it is my life and no one has the right to control it or rule over. Remember the more you give people a chance to control over your life, you will never be able to find yourself again.

Why is it that people are afraid to walk away from what they don’t like? Afraid of what would the society say or are you afraid of being alone in the end? It is said that every incident that happens in your life and every individual that you meet in your life come with a reason or a lesson then why and what are we afraid of? We would either learn something or earn something, there is nothing to lose and in the end you have yourself with you with full respect. Most important thing in life is self-respect. While loving someone, taking care of someone if you lose that then you will definitely be taken from granted and one day you will have to lose yourself for everything. It will lead to depression, frustration and everything which is not needed or deserved.

What do you understand by a wrong story and with WHO?

Family

Let’s start with our first known people, “Family”, you think that you are a part of them and so you keep doing everything what they want and fulfill their needs even if you don’t like or feel it right to do. I’m not considering only the children but even adults of the family can feel that they are at a wrong place but due to relations with husband/wife and children they stay back and sacrifice their whole life behind satisfying their needs but not their own needs. Eventually they will cultivate the habit of making their needs and their own just to feel happy but later stage they will get frustrated and upset with everyone around them and start speaking up which the rest of the family members cannot digest or accept. Don’t you think It is good to leave the story of family behind at the very first place when you were given an hint that it will not last long or would you continue to try your best alone and in the end start spoiling your health? Think about it please…

Partner

Next comes, your relation with your partner. Who says that once married are forever married? Our society has separated marriages in two parts, loves and arranged whereas both mean the same in the end which is marriage. It is always good to analyze where you are falling into rather than cribbing and crying over it later. Of course many of us do not have the sixth sense or the nature to identify the good or bad and fall in the pit. If one from the two feels that it is not working, we can initially try to solve by discussing but if this continues and things do not change it is better to leave the story. That is not the last chapter of your life.  I am sure one would have created beautiful dreams of future with your better half and would think whether that is the right decision or not, whether being alone is good or not. All these questions have a simple answer, if you love yourself the most then it is better to choose your life your way rather than sticking to the society rules and torture yourself till you die. Do not stay at any place where you feel uncomfortable or if you feel you are been used just for someone else’s benefit. Mind you, you are not born for them but for yourself. No one can stop you from taking a decision which suits your life and your happiness. Remember one thing, people will stand by yourself if they see profit in you but the day you start falling down you will see people going off from your sight, so in the end you will have to stay still strong and alone with head up high and dignity that yes you can do it alone and independently. One can always take suggestions from people you know but finally do what you feel is right, do not depend on anyone for ultimately it you who will face the consequences and not anyone else.

Friends

Last but not the least the relation with your friends. When we say you are my best friend we mean that you are equals to my sibling because we feel comfortable sharing everything with them good or bad and would also like to take their suggestions in need. Friends are more close to anyone today as they have the same wavelength and would understand your situation. But even in this fun- filled relation people try to dominate and overrule the other just because they put complete trust in you. Is there any need to dominate the one who listens to you, respects you, consider you for any good that happens? Why even here people play with other’s feelings and ruin the relation? It is better to slowly remove them from your life rather than stretching it for the fear of having no friend at all. It is seriously good to be alone than being in a wrong company.

Never feel you are alone, you are there for yourself. Make yourself so strong that even if you all are moving in one direction and you are not comfortable following the same route, you still have the guts to walk on the opposite direction and achieve what you want.

If one way has flowers at the start but thorns later and the other route has thorns initially and then flowers, which route would you chose? Think wisely and answer yourself whether you need flowers the rest of your life or are you amazed by the rosy feeling just for the initial stage. I would suggest you not to be in a story where there are thorns later it will only hurt you tremendously and break you.

PS: If you can’t figure out where you stand with someone, it might be the time to stop standing and start walking.