This blog is about being a kind human being. It is about keeping your little ego aside and being useful to the outside world. In my opinion, the best way to show kindness is the way you can help anyone and everyone in need.

I have been reading lately and listening to stories of kindness. When listening to it we feel wow it’s so easy to help someone or to at least be someone’s listener. But in reality it is all the more difficult to give a helping hand to a stranger. Everyone would help their family members when they are in need but who would go out of their way to help any stranger, as we have been taught since childhood that we should stay away from a stranger or anyone that we are not connected to by family. Then why make friends either? Why marry a total stranger naming an arranged marriage? If these things can happen then why not help someone in need? I’m guessing that your first thoughts will be centered on doing things for others.

Certainly being useful to others is of huge importance and a philanthropic quality that cannot be denied. The purpose of life is not just about being successful or being happy, it is to be useful, to be honored, to make a significant difference. We see life at a length but what about its depth? Learn to become useful to yourself first and then others, it would be easy to understand others in that way. Respect your needs and dreams, be passionate, and focused on converting them into actions that will help you achieve with the desired outcome. Taking care of your self is another way of being kind to yourself. Being useful to oneself is becoming positive towards your life. Each and every action that you perform in life is of some use to us whether big or small, right or wrong. This will bring us closer to leading a meaningful life.

Now it comes to being useful to others. Wherever you go whatever you do just be kind enough to offer help. We all must have learned from school and university that we should help one another in any manner we can and so on, but how many us still follow? Once we enter the corporate world everyone is seen running towards being on the top or being good in front of bosses. Every employee or colleague is ready to pull you down and sit on your position. Why do we forget the law of karma or the best phrase ever said that “you reap what you sow” I would like to repeat here the meaning of it which says, whatever you put your time and energy into is what you get back then why not put our efforts into something useful than poking into others business. Be useful to your peers or just stay quiet and finish your work. Managers, Team- leaders can look after their employees, their team as a whole in a subtler way which will increase their productivity than taking unusual medical leaves for no reason. Spending time with them, knowing them better is useful and a kind attitude towards them. It is not always about meeting the targets in time. Giving compliments, inviting your colleague for lunch, appreciating their efforts over a project, are all little kindness which cumulatively builds a strong culture of compassion.

Coming to personal life, share your stories with someone, maybe your words can become a survival guide in someone’s life. There have been several incidences in my life till today which have torn me apart and made me strong too. They helped me change my attitude towards how I see life and myself and how I became a little calmer and positive towards every approach of life. Words of kindness are so powerful. I first started believing in it after I had shared my struggle with someone and the way they responded. It also might have helped them overcome any crisis or any such situation where they felt lost in their journey. When I sit to write a blog I make sure they are more positive, motivational, or helpful to someone and less criticized. “I never walked a mile in your shoes,” someone whispered. It was uttered by someone who passed no judgment and shared no advice, who just heard what I wanted to share and how I felt, simply allowing me to think and feel, respected the mile I walked. Remember always that none walk the same path as we do. Everyone has different stories and experiences not to be judged.

We can find ourselves confronted with many whose opinions are far different than ours. It makes us feel lighter than ever before when we are not judged and can easily connect with them without being biased. We are different pieces of a puzzle in the world. Everyone has their own unique and different piece but the puzzle is completed when all of us join together. Being kind to everyone is similar to this puzzle. Without one’s help, we are incomplete, then why have ego or raise our standards to that level where you are happy but can’t find anyone to share your happiness with. Love anyway, your shoes have seen a far different journey than the one next to yours, choose to respect them and be useful if need. If you feel discomfort, select another topic to talk to one another but do not let down anyone, switch over and connect on a different level.

P.S – The fragrance always stays in the hand who gives the rose.