Today I could finally take out time to write another blog. A write up which every woman can relate to or would like to think about – pregnancy, a baby or say a new life for a woman. The way they walk, eat, their glowing face, their pain and not to forget their mood swings. Everything comes down to that little one growing inside their belly. If you know someone before pregnancy and after announcing that they are expecting a child, you will see whole new person, may be a little more mature and already a mother like nature in them.

A euphemism kind of a thing a women would ever do. Something that is felt pure inside. It is self- contradictory experiencing both equally as exciting and stress-inducing. It is like the hardest best thing you can ever do on your life. The entire process had a lot of expectations, living up to these can seem like overwhelming but when you actually start the process is when you feel the unknowing pain with pleasure. An unavoidable phase in women’s life, a gift given by God which only a woman can feel and live for those 9 months is just a blessing. Every woman has its own journey and is different than others. They have their own experiences to share. Listen to your intuition and that will never let you down. These are some of the things I would like to share to those friends of mine who are pregnant and to those who are trying to become a mommy.

It is absolutely ok to feel disconnected from you baby, you are growing a life in you after all. Lately I had seen a video where in a women felt completely disconnected with the child soon after her delivery. It took a lot for her to get back to normal life and her routine. It was with the help of her partner she could start loving herself and the baby like every other mom. It says that pregnancy is one of the true miracles of life. There’s a whole entrance into a motherhood thing. Everyone around you would be ready just to give you tips and advices which may be you don’t even need or you are not ready to listen and just in case if any of those advices do not work for you, you start throwing up and would feel like something is wrong with you. But let me tell you this post pregnancy issues are totally natural and it does not happen to every women bearing a child. It is hard to love someone you have never met and some days it will be hard to rationalize that there’s actually a little human growing in you and one day it will be right beside you, let alone feel utterly in love with it!

It is absolutely ok to feel self-conscious about your growing body. People will tell you that you are glowing and that you look Awww so cute and great. But this will not look as glamorous as people tend to portray with words. You’re gaining weight, you look swollen and you are uncomfortable with months passing by, you feel hungry all the time, you would visit the loo every 15minutes may be. While you can understand and embrace that all these changes to your body are well worth it. Being self- conscious about getting bigger doesn’t mean you will not be a good mommy and that you’re not selfless enough, pregnancy is just the beginning so do not be too hard on yourself.

Having a different feeling than your partner is natural as he is not carrying a child in him so feelings would naturally be different. It is you who gets to feel the baby kick throughout the day and watching your baby bump grow. The morning sickness, insomnia, fatigue and the list goes on and on. Your partner can only watch the baby grow but cannot feel the rest though they have a little idea of what can it feel like but not completely. For them it might just be simple meal of the day but for you the baby keeps reminding you constantly of how hungry it is and keeps kicking you all the time while you would like to have a peaceful meal. While both are excited and anxious about the new arrival, the experiences are different. Husbands can get a little overprotective too which is normal as they would want you and the baby to be fine. In this situation you need to keep an open communication, good or bad, with each other so that even he can feel the connected with the baby a little at least.

It is ok to feel unprepared or nervous. The contradictory version is still on and continues to be until you see the baby or maybe even after that as you are not experienced how to handle or take care of the baby and your mood swings too. Hormonal changes speak a lot, struggling with those can overshadow the excitement. Reading books, sharing your ups and downs with your partner can help you ease the nervousness and also keep the excitement. Talking to other pregnant ladies or mommy will help too but do not take every advice of theirs seriously, as I said every woman has a different story to share. Every pregnancy, delivery, and baby is different!! Follow what your heart says, after all it is your baby, you are the parents to be.

PS: Do not let other experiences or stories make you feel like your experience is any less than, cherish every moment and live it together.