Being free, feeling independent or having emotions, whether right or wrong, is what one needs to understand. Society has easily bifurcated the term freedom in two ways, Girl and Boy, where a boy has complete freedom to do what he likes and a Girl has no freedom to even get education in some part of the villages even today and if it is a metro city, she will be eligible for education but nothing else. No entertainment, no parties, no hanging out with friends late night, no drinks etc., the list will never end, but yes with a condition that her parents are along or elder brother then the eligibility criteria is cancelled suddenly.
When we ask for an answer to this bifurcation, It is simply covered by a sentence that get married first then you can do whatever you want to. For all those parents who think this kindly do not confuse your daughter according to your convenience, because when you say that she can do anything she wants after she gets married, it means she is still not matured and on the other side you want her to act mature when it comes to working or doing household chores. Why is it that the steering of her life is handled by you? Who gave you the rights? Just because you have brought her into this life does not give you 100% rights to just impose your thoughts on her. Who has seen after marriage life? They think it is easy and only by loving and taking care of husband and in-laws things become easy. Sorry, she still has her dreams which she wants to fulfill and of course no one would even think of what she feels or what does she really want to do in life. Everything comes down to “Log kya kahenge.”
This phrase has shaken many girls inside out because they feel that these so called “log” will not come at their rescue if needed nor will they come be happy to see us growing, they are the ones always moaning about for every little matter. I request parents to stand up for their child and shut these society people who talk ill about your own child. Like boys, even girls are meant to shine and feel fabulous about themselves. Encourage them to go outside and look at the world as if it is just meant to enjoy and if anything goes wrong you are there to take care of them. I bet you, a daughter prove to be better than a son. Please do not educate her only to get a great Son-In-Law, but educate her to live in the world with her head up without feeling afraid of the society or without any kind of hesitation. She has complete right to talk, walk, wear, or do what she feels good for her and not to please or impress people.
PS: A women is like a tea bag, you never know how strong she is until she gets in hot water.
