We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give. This is what altruism is all about. Being humble, selfless, and empathize to people around us. What is the purpose of living? Is it about doing something good and achieving what you want or it is about helping others without expecting anything in return is how you make your life a worth living. How you make others feel about themselves says all about you. Empathy and altruism are more often related. When empathy is about understanding ones feelings and emotions, the ability to take the perspective and feel the other person, altruism on the other side is about having thoughts of helping that person by having a desire to understand them.

Helping someone or understanding someone does not mean only monetarily. It is about listening to them quietly without judging them. It is not about pointing out what’s wrong or what’s right but it is about helping them understand in a way that they are convinced to follow the good. These days we lack this nature. It is difficult to shut ourselves just to listen to the other person. We are always ready to give opinions and suggestions based on our thoughts and experiences but sometimes that does not work with the other. It is definitely not necessary that the way you have solved issues in your life, the same way the other would do. The situations and circumstances may differ and even thoughts. Empathy is simply a connection that you have with the other let it be any person you meet in life. It can be your family, relatives, friends or partner. The connection is so strong with that one person that you feel like yes this is the only one I can share my thoughts to and I will not be judged either. The other person with no meanness will help you in every manner they can without being selfish. Their only concern would be how to take you out of that phase and let you be happy thereafter.

What triggers empathy in you is the observation of someone else’s emotion. If someone else is also going through the same as you even then you feel empathized and the brain triggers you to listen to them as you already can feel their emotions. Compassion is what we call in simple terms when one can or is able to understand the emotions of another person strongly. Walking in other people’s shoes does not only serve the purpose, you need to have the ability to listen and understand their point of view. When someone is coming to you, showing the need to help them, your attitude matters a lot. Put aside your view and do not let your thoughts overrule the others. It is about gulping their pain and not letting them taste it again. Heart to heart connection helps you do this and if you cannot empathize, I would suggest you not to sympathize either. Sympathy would ruin their emotions more. It is about how you make them feel. Selfless care, selfless love is all what they need in the end.

I have always been trying to empathize with those who need me without even asking them the matter. It is simply about showing that your love them endlessly and care for no reason. Even if you know they don’t need it, you should never stop as deep down this is what heals them and they will understand the need of emotional help. We lose humanity if we lose empathy. Many times we would feel weird and not understand that why the other person is reacting to situations or what the hell happened to them all of a sudden, but this confusion is because we lack in connection with the other. That time we need to make sure we listen to them and act accordingly or respond appropriately to the situation. Manipulators are someone who can use their power for their own benefit by deceiving others. They are not the actual ones who empathize, they can feel but they tend to ignore those people for their own good.

You will find many who are experts in ranting others but others though they feel instant compassion can help or may lack altruism towards the same. Empathy benefits social relationships, we are naturally social creatures and when we engage ourselves in empathy we become more pro-social that benefit others. If someone is different or has a different view of certain thing does not mean they are not normal. The highest number of people who are different pay more heavy taxes in terms of ignorance by people because the other set of humans do not wish to understand them or even try to listen to what they think. That’s when people with empathy turn towards them and create that connection instantly.

PS: Empathy is Communicating…. that incredibly healing message of, “You’re not alone.”