The title might sound contradictory but it is the fact these days. By staying away does not mean that we stay physically away from each other. It just means we give that enough space not to let go off the relationship which we would really love to keep the rest of our life. To stay together it is really important to know and understand each other’s personal space. Taking each other from granted is very easy but when you think or decide on living together, it Is equally important to learn how to stay away for a while and give that space to your significant another.
For HER
Being your wife does not mean she has to work as well as take care of the house. She needs her space where she can move around with her friends, go out for dinner sometimes with her colleagues, and attend office parties too. She had good friends even long before she met you, and at then if she did not let anyone be hers, then why would she let in now when she has you? She is not just married to you for the sake of taking care of you and your family, if she does not get her space the house which you want her to turn into a sweet home will in return become suffocation for her and she would end up getting separated or start creating distance. If you feel that sticking to one another will get you closer then remember you will eventually come close to her but she will grow away from you.
For HIM
The same thing is with every man, even they need space from the other. To stick around them, check their phones, nagging on every little thing, repeatedly calling them at work just to check what are they doing. Disturbing them even when they are hanging around with their friends and throwing tantrums would make them feel annoyed and they would find excuses to stay away from you. Instead, why not just give them some time alone when they need so that the trust and love does not fade. It increases with time and blossoms. Giving space and time is the best recipe for long term relationship to work.
Same applies in long distance relationships. People tend to think that stay miles away would break their relation if they don’t keep a check on the other the whole day. This thinking of checking on each other may destroy the relation and you will start looking around for someone else. A healthy relationship, whether it’s romantic, brotherly, or friendly, is when each person is allowed room to grow, unjudged, and still loved. Giving space does not even mean taking break from that relationship altogether for some time. It is just detaching yourself from another for the sake of that person who needs to spend time with himself and love his or herself more just to get back to you and love you more. They will not start hating you for staying away but love you, respect you more for the time you gave them without you being involved, that’s when they would like to come closer to you and share their thoughts freely. The greatest gift you can give someone is the space to be him or herself without the threat of you leaving. Without any fear if you let one free, the relation can grow in a different way letting each other accept the flaws and see the imperfect you perfectly.
PS: Allow the Relationship to Breathe, Else it will Die!!
Well well well this blog is the most important one i feel! It looks like you have become a voice for us binita. I strongly believe in personal space. There’s no harm in giving it. We all need it. We do have a right to receive it. After all it’s our life too, we all should have freedom to do anything, to be ourself. We all have different friends at every stage of life,some stay at every stage of our life, so why are we asked to forget them and just stick to one person whole your life? We all need friends in our lives. After all your friends have been ur companion in all your happiness n sadness right from your school till you finish your education. They have understood you more than your family may be in few things at least. They stood up for you when nobody else did. They have shown that trust in you when nobody else did. And the most imp thing, there’s only these FRIENDS who you can open up to, without having a fear of being judged, criticised.. you are just you in front of them. Then why should we sacrifice our friendship for a relationship. Why is it so difficult for people to give you that space?
Firstly, thank you for considering me your voice. My work is to help everyone who can relate themselves with what I write and feel better.. it is ofcourse difficult for people to give you that soace because since the beginning you are the one who allowed them… If stopped at the first attempt they wouldn’t go further. Sometimes it is our fault to let our happiness be ruled by someone, why? Just because we love them so much but even we forget that love does not mean to hold on to someone.